Kid dating tips
While there have been several studies on divorce, remarriage and step-parenting, very few exist for the courtship period parents go through before remarriage.Here are some guidelines to consider concerning post-divorced dating and your children: Adjusting to the idea of dating isn’t just for parents. Constance Ahrons, author of The Good Divorce and We’re Still Family and professor emeritus at University Southern California, recently completed a 20 year longitudinal study on children of divorce.The willingness to date or pursue a relationship with a single parent requires patience and understanding.It can take time to develop a comfort zone, not only with a new person, but also with the kids and with the new person as a parent as well.
Parents need to make sure before things get tricky that children understand their continued importance to them, the freedom for the child(ren) to continue a close loving relationship with the ex-spouse (despite any personal misgivings) and the possibility of new people in the parent’s life.
She found that the young children she studied worried about how their parent’s dating process was going to affect them.
Children between the ages 5 and 10 were more possessive of their mother than older children.
This may be because of the diverted attention in the wake of limited time together due to custody issues.
Another possibility is the potential for the new relationship to be the cause of the parent’s divorce.