White pride dating sites
When I regaled her with my horror stories, she insisted that times had changed and I should give it another go.
After nearly a decade away, she was right: things had changed.
I’m talking about internet dating, of course, where millions of singletons (and quite a few marrieds on the make) line up to be selected and rejected in a process that has become Britain’s most popular way for couples to get together. Too young for the dinner party set, too old to be hanging out at nightclubs, it seemed like a hopeless cause until a friend of a similar age took me out and confessed her dirty little secret: she’d started to meet men online.
Over half of all single people turn to the internet in their search for love. I never did and I’ve never met anyone it has worked for either. She imparted this information in hushed tones, without making eye contact, and then, on pain of death, swore me to secrecy.
There were hundreds of sites to choose from, all with really positive, bouncy names that it must have taken marketing executives hours of brainstorming to come up with.
Names such as Soul Mates, Plenty More Fish, Love And Friends.
We agreed to meet again and I went home to tell my flatmate, a fellow internet dater, that I had a good feeling about this one. I also never made my peace with the fact I was looking for men via my computer.
She replied cynically: ‘He’s probably back online now, lining up the next one.’ I checked his profile online — it was flashing, which meant that he was messaging someone else. And that’s the huge stumbling block with internet dating: there’s too much choice. It felt a little bit grubby and, if I’m honest, desperate. Why on earth did I think the idea of a childless woman cruising for men at the zoo was somehow less embarrassing than admitting the truth?
It made sense, though I always had a niggling doubt. I searched the electoral roll and uncovered the real reason I never went to his home — his wife wouldn’t have liked it very much.
Any online dater will stand or fall on the strength of their photo.
And as the average person looks, well, average, they have to boost their chances of success by posting totally unrealistic images.
When I’m looking for a partner, there are certain things I’d like to know, but I don’t really care when he last went to the cinema or whether he likes biscuits.
I filled out my first profile questionnaire in painstaking detail.